There can be a lot of tension between family members when it comes to managing a senior's care. While that's normal, it doesn't mean that any of you enjoy that tension and strain. Here are some things to consider.
Everybody Has a Different Perspective.
As your senior's family caregiver, you've got a front row seat to a lot of information and situations that other people in the family don't get to witness. That means that your perspective on the whole of your senior's care might be very different from that of other family members. This can cause conflict. The more information that you can share with other family members, the easier the entire situation can get.
One Person Is Doing All the Work
Another problem is that usually one person, almost always you as the family caregiver, is doing the vast majority of the real work. That can leave you feeling resentful and overwhelmed. By contrast, other people in the family may not understand how much work goes into what you're doing. You can try talking to them about how they can help, which can help them to see what caregiving is like for you.
One Person Is Shutting Everyone Out.
The flip side of that situation, unfortunately, can be that you might be unwittingly shutting other family members out of the caregiving process. You might think that you know what's best and what your senior needs. That might even be true. But if you're shutting other family members out, they're going to feel alienated and as if you don't want them there.
There's a Lot Going On.
The bottom line is that caregiving is really involved. There's a lot that's going on all the time, even when it doesn't seem as if there is. One way to help to relieve the tension that you and other family members are feeling is to have someone else carry part of that load. Elderly care providers can handle some of the routine tasks that take up a lot of time and energy so that you can take a mental step back and come to a better understanding with your other family members.
A big part of caregiving can involve making sure that other family members are included in big decisions. Help them to get the information that they need to be able to give you the support and assistance that you need as her caregiver. When you do that, everyone will benefit, but especially your aging family member.