Aging at home is often the best step. It's familiar and comforting. It's also normal to worry about your mom when she's living alone. If she fell, how long would it take someone to find her? If she was sick, would she immediately tell you?
Many older adults refuse to ask for help. Pride steps in and keeps them from admitting they cannot do everything on their own. If that's your mom, she's going to insist that she's fine on her own. Don't let her talk you out of arranging home care services. If she needs help, make the arrangements. You need to navigate it carefully, but it's important.
Talk openly to your mom about her need for help. Go over routine tasks that she needs to do each day. See which things are challenges for her and what she does well on her own. She may love to cook but needs help chopping the ingredients. She may not be able to cook at all. Reassure her that it's okay if she can't do everything.
Address her fears without being accusatory or dismissive. Have close friends and family members who your mom trusts join you in the conversation. If she finds it too much to have everyone there, narrow it down to a smaller group.
If you can have friends who use home care services, have them available to share their experiences. If your mom is able to hear other people's experiences, it will help her understand what home care can do for her.
Involve Her in the Planning
Involve your mom in the planning sessions. When you sit down with a home care specialist, make sure your mom is able to ask her questions. If she's hesitant to ask, ask for her, and make sure she understands the answers.
Go over the services with her and ask her what would help her feel safe and comfortable at home. If she can meet the caregivers prior to the first day of services, arrange it so that she can familiarize herself with the caregiver.
Be Available on the First Day
On the first day of services, be available but don't hover. Work in a home office or den and let the caregiver approach you with questions when needed. Otherwise, let your mom and caregiver adjust to each other.
Home care services make it easy for your mom to age at home without feeling lonely or afraid. Talk to our agency to make the arrangements.
If you or an aging loved-one are considering Home Care Services in West Covina CA, talk to the caring staff at Cambrian Home Care today. (562) 498-1800 / (877) 390-4300.